Showing posts with label Values. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Values. Show all posts

Friday, January 11, 2008

"What is Wrong and What is Important?"

…. The lack of a value system, self-respect and decency is what was apparent during New Year celebrations this year. Uprooting road signs, trashing police booths, driving around drunkenly and generally creating mayhem, wanton destruction of public property – Behaviour like this does not “just happen”. It is programmed to happen because personal integrity is not given as much importance as, say, academic achievement; because children have too few role-models outside cinema and television; because the law is too lazy to track down the vandals; and, above all, because the disapproval of society is not expressed loudly and clearly.

On the first day of 2008, the only people who were not thoroughly disgusted with these graphic pictures of wanton destruction were probably those same youth. They may have been pleased to have made it to the front pages!

Why is it that violence and destruction are the chosen ways to express a whole range of emotions for some youngsters? When a popular political leader dies, they break windows; when they are protesting a new rule, they burn buses and break into shops; and when they celebrate, they break whatever comes to hand. And every time, they brazenly break the rules!

What is wrong?

There may be a temptation on the part of some, even the police, to let this New Year eve vandalism go as “harmless fun”. This temptation must be resisted, because such behaviour is neither harmless nor fun.

There are three major things wrong with this behaviour.

One, they equated ‘celebration’ with destruction and dangerous behaviour.

Two, they did not care who saw them and they did not fear punishment.

Three, they did not regret their actions even in the clear sober light of the following day.

The first shows lack of a good value system; the second shows lack of self-respect and accountability; the third shows lack of decency and a willingness to change.

These young men have probably done this sort of thing before, and will probably do it again. There are others like them, many others, who will be encouraged to join in, if society or the law-enforcers display indulgence and apathy. Just like a few discordant notes can ruin the music of an orchestra, elements like these debase society. When these things happen often enough, we all get “used” to them, and after a while we don’t even stop to think about it. It becomes part of the “scene”, part of society as we know it.

Mindless vandalism masquerading as “fun” is every bit as a dangerous to society as major crimes… in fact, more so, because they sneak in “under the radar” as it were, and eat away at public standards of decency.

- From the article, “Breaking in the New Year?” by Malini Seshadri in the ‘Young World’, The Hindu, January 11, 2008

- (My grateful thanks to Ms Malini Seshadri for this lucid, analytical, thought-provoking and wonderful article)

Sunday, December 30, 2007

Violence, Virtues, Values and Children : Where did we go wrong?

Letter-1:
The articles "Where did we go wrong?" and "Learning to kill for fun" (December 23, 2007, The Hindu) were timely and thought-provoking. When the Virginia Tech tragedy occurred, many of us were sure that such incidents would not occur in India. But we were wrong. It is difficult to restrict the use of guns only to law enforcers and to censor video games before allowing them to be sold in India. Also the increased popularity of shooting as a major sport in India has led to an increase in the sale of guns. Therefore the government should ban shooting as a sport. - A.Ibrahim, N.Parur, Kerala

Letter-2:
The incidents of violence among children are increasing sometimes with fatal consequences. This is a direct result of changing values of society and the excess of violence being portrayed on TV. Further, the older generation is also responsible as they want instant success and do not hesitate to resort to violence. From childhood, a child is exposed to violence and so he grows up to believe that there is nothing wrong in violence. - Mahesh Kumar, New Delhi

Letter-3:
Anjali Gopalan has rightly pointed out that it is the new generation of well-to-do parents who have no time to see how their children are growing up that is responsible for socially deviant behaviour. This shocking incident should serve as an eye-opener. Also, parents' caring attitude will also go a long way in helping shape the child's future. -
K.R.Srinivasan, Hyderabad

Letter-4:
The questions raised by Anjali Gopalan and Mini Krishnan should be assimilated by parents. The visual media has a negative influence on young minds since many films and serials highlight violence and vengeance. As civilization advances, virtues and values seem to take a backseat. - Radhika Kannan, Karaikudi

Letter-5:
Two years ago, we traveled from Gurgaon to Jaipur by train. A large group of students with three teachers from an elite Gurgaon school were in our coach. The children occupied seats reserved for others and refused to vacate them. They were noisy and threw wrappers and empty bottles. When told to put their waste in the bin, they rudely replied that the government had employed sweepers for the purpose. The teachers kept mum throughout. These are students of a school that charges a six-figure fee; every student had a laptop. But apparently, they were not taught respect for law, civic sense or the respect and tolerance necessary to live in a community. - Dr.D.M.Mohunta, by e-mail.

Letter-6:
Modern parents do their best to insulate their children from poverty and the realities of life. They provide their children with money but do not teach them values. They choose the best schools for their children to score some brownie points in a kitty party or cocktail circuits. Aggression is eulogised, and encouraged. A nation such as ours cannot afford to wish away poverty. We need to realise that we are moving from deprivation to sufficiency not to prosperity. Imbalance needs to be addressed, if not our children will probably live in a socially volatile setting which will affect the coming generations. -
Benedict Gnaniah, Chennai

Letter-7:
Anajali Goplan rightly emphasised the need of cultivating social values in children. Children are today witness to violence at home, alcoholism, in movies, television and news. Our society is filled with caste, religious and political antagonism. It is time to rebuild our social values and moral principles. We have to inculcate virtues like compassion, goodwill and cooperation in the minds of young children. - S.V.K.Chandran, Thiruvananthapuram


Letters to the Editor, The Hindu (Sunday Magazine), December 30, 2007